I used to think the hard part of the relationship was over once I was committed…
I mean that’s the way it’s supposed to be right?
The hard part was supposed to be about getting the girl, not keeping her. That’s why there’s so much information out there on how to get the girl and almost nothing on how to keep her. That’s how the movies I watched and the books I read all ended and those were as real as you could get…or so I thought.
Then I got a nice big dose of reality and heart break. I was happily in a relationship, thinking I was doing a great job. I’d buy her things, be a nice guy, do what she asked me to. The end result? She left me for another guy!
I was devastated and couldn’t figure out what went wrong! I felt like I did everything right. I was completely heartbroken for months! What’s worse, is that I felt like I had no traction in my life and I swore off women in my life for almost a decade. My productivity at work suffered, it was difficult for friends to be around me, I felt sorry for myself and was hardened to life. In the end I had no interest in pursuing any of my passions, I felt like the life was completely sucked out of me.
Fast forward and a few personal development courses and books later, I find myself in a relationship again. Things start off great! Sex is amazing, we share the same interests and life is grand.
Then we start fighting. Arguments which I thought were no big deal were taking days sometimes weeks to get resolved. She’d be angry for what felt like no reason whatsoever. Everything started to slide. My happiness diminished, I wasn’t satisfied with my relationship, our sex life went down the toilet and my performance at work suffered. And even though we didn’t break up (though there were times when we both wanted to) I could clearly see the same issues in my life starting to crop up.
I was surprised to find myself with a different woman at a different time in my life, but in the same situation.
Clearly I wasn’t getting something.
This time, rather than spending extra time feeling sorry for myself, I started studying and reading any book I could on relationships. Not just a few books here and there—I blocked out time and plowed through whatever I could my hands on.
It wasn’t exactly easy to “figure it out.” I spent the next couple years reading a lot of books, going to seminars, attending workshops, going to retreats and generally trying out a lot of whacky ideas that I was learning.
These were great resources but the real “break” came when I started meeting and hanging out with other guys that were NATURALLY good in relationships.
I realized these men were doing certain things and communicating with their women differently than I had been. They were doing things I thought I shouldn’t be doing. They’d respond to their partner and have her go from raging to melting in their arms in ways I never could.
The more I studied this, the more I saw consistencies in what these men were doing and the results they were getting.
I took what I picked up from these guys and started implementing and testing it for myself. Fast forward to today, and I’m proud to say that all my work paid off. I’m happily married and we just celebrated our 2 year anniversary. It’s not always easy but now at least I have a blueprint and a framework to know what to do when things get tough.
I’ve now made it my own mission to ensure that no man suffers the way I did when it comes to their relationship. That’s why I’m here and that’s why I do what I do.
Why Should You Believe That I Can Help You?
As you already know, there are a lot of people running around trying to convince you that they have all the answers when it comes to dating, relationships and sex. I haven’t always been coaching men in their relationship.
Let me be honest, I don’t have ALL the answers. But I do have a LOT of answers (and my answers are pretty damn useful).
You might be wondering, “So why should I believe what Scott has to say?”
Well, you shouldn’t believe me blindly…or anyone, for that matter. But I invite you to try out what I have to offer, experiment with what you learn and see if it works for you.
Everything I do comes with 100% guarantee. Try it out and schedule a Relationship Accelerator Session with me or contact me with your questions. We’ll get together one-on-one and get into the heart of the matter. If it makes sense and works, THEN you can decide if you want to keep working together.
I’m here to show up and share everything I know to help you get what you want, and I’m also human. I understand what it’s like to make mistakes and not know what to do. I want only the best for you and your relationship, so reach out to me when you are ready to start.
Scott DeStephanis is a Men’s Relationship Coach and Speaker who has over 7 years experience in leading seminars, workshops and presentations internationally. He has shared the stage with other industry leaders including Eben Pagan, Annie Lalla, Dr. Marc Gafni and Bryan Franklin to name a few.
Deeply dedicated to serving men and having their relationships thrive, Scott DeStephanis is the Leader of an international men’s organization and has recently redesigned their flagship program, being flown across Canada to lead weekends for men.
Much of Scott’s mission and commitment to men is based on what he has experienced and cultivated in his is own personal relationships and marriage. So much so that Scott DeStephanis dedicated part of his wedding to a seminar on love and relationships with his wife and included many of the aforementioned speakers who have now become close personal friends.
Scott’s goal is to impact and facilitate connection within relationships by teaching men how to communicate in a way that is true, honest and understood by their partner. His down-to earth manner coupled with his high degree of integrity with his teachings makes him an excellent and easy to understand coach and speaker.